Infertility effects around one in six couples at a given point in their lives and for Women who are struggling to conceive a child, Mother’s Day can be particularly difficult. This is a day where women across the world are honoured for the life they’ve created, and the culmination of reminders across social media, TV, radio and the retail industry can make the one dream that a Woman struggling with infertility has, the title of “Mother”, feel even further away.
However, there are many Women who have been down this path, who have experienced the raft of emotions amplified by Mother’s Day, yet later have been blessed with the privilege of creating life with the help of IVF. So, don’t give up hope or let go of your dream of having a child, but for the meantime, we’ve written up a Mother’s Day survival guide to ensure that you can stay focused on your dream.
Mother’s Day survival tips
- Take care of yourself – put yourself first and indulge in a bit of self-care and do something fun.
- Avoid social media – set to be filled with endless family snaps, have a social media detox for the day.
- Treat yourself and your partner – plan a special outing with your partner, perhaps a dinner together or a weekend escape. Make it stress-free and relaxing.
- Focus on some positives in your life – take a moment to reflect on the things you are thankful for and the memories and moments that you cherish to date.
- Friends and loved ones may share what they think is well-meant advice, however it’s often the last thing you want to hear. Things like ‘I bet when you stop trying it will just happen’, ‘just relax and don’t stress about it’, ‘have you thought about adopting? It’s important to try not to take it to heart.
- Make time to see a fertility specialist – If things aren’t happening naturally, consider seeing making an appointment with an expert to investigate things further. More often than not, if there is indeed an issue, it can be treated – but it’s important to know exactly what you’re dealing with and what your options are and to see it as a step forward towards motherhood.
If you decide that you want to take that step forward, look for someone who knows and understands the emotional rollercoaster of IVF. Dr Sonya Jessup, one of the lead Doctors at Demeter Fertility underwent the process in her 40’s, resulting in the birth of her son Samuel, ''It made me realise that the needles and the technical side aren't that bad at all, it's the emotional side. You are always wondering, 'Am I going to get pregnant this month?'”
Dr Jessup uses her first hand experience of IVF to create a nurturing and comfortable environment, ensuring that you receive the support and care you need to undergo IVF as smoothly as possible. Also, having a fertility management plan in place to help maximise natural fertility but with a jointly agreed date to start assisted treatment if not pregnant by a given time is a great benefit that serves your relationship and increases your chance of conceiving a child.